Children's Bullying

What is bullying?
It is a verbal and/or physical torturing upon a person conducted by another person. It might be a continuous mockery, threat, extortion and even physical violence. If it is happen to your children, beware of the impact since it could be negatively effected to your children psychological condition.


Why is it happen?

There are some reasons why a person is bullying another:

1. Wanted to be popular. He might have a perception of having a self recognition from others by bullying another person. A less portion of family's attention upon him/her or bad television impact might have been a trigger.
2. Frustrated. Feeling insecure, inferiority, defeated and much more could force someone to conduct negatively by suppressing another person.
3. Having no role model, experiencing violence and/or being ignored. Especially those with less attention at home will not gain a good sample of manner. Thus, they distribute their anger and dissapointment overwhelming others.

What if your child was a bullying victim?

Beware of the symptoms. Analyze if our child was:

• looked so depressed
• get mad easily
• motionless and separated from others
• avoiding certain situation

Try this approaching techniques:

1. Always with friend around. Being around with friends, especially in school's break time, will help our child feel more comfortable and avoid him/her from bullying.
2. Not emotionally ignited. When our child was being a victim of bullying and he/she was being emotionally ignited afterward, such as cried, sad and frightened, it will satisfied the bully. Asked your child to give such a flat facial expression and keep away anytime he/she was being bullied. Teach him/her to overcome anger, for instance by taking a deep breathe and thinking of something cheerful.
3. Report any kind of harassment to the teacher and parents. Tell him/her not to be afraid of threat, ask them to tell their parents or teacher if they happened to be insulted. Make them sure that adults have the best way of overcoming the problem and will do the best the make them feel comfortable.

Approaching the children
It is not easy to probe information from those who is being bullied. Make them relax and show them that you really mean to solve the problem. Avoid thrusting on and cornering. If they finally tell us what has happened, praise them of their courage and tell them that they are not alone facing the unpleasant situation.

Source: Parenting Center